My Mother: My Role Model and Best Friend
A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path- Agatha Christie
I consider myself one of the luckiest people on earth, because I was fortunate enough to enjoy a mother’s love and still do to this day. The worst thing that can ever happen to a person is not to experience what it feels to be loved by his/her mother.
A mother’s love can never be expressed with words, it can only be felt and it is the most beautiful thing on earth. If God’s love is at the pinnacle, then a mother’s love to her child is slightly below it, if not next to it. Even though I grow old by the passing second, to my mother I will forever be her little girl.
My mother is the most important person in my life. My mother and I have this special bond together that I’m sure exists between mothers and their children all over the world. I cannot explain it, but when she is around I feel safe and happy.
This is because my mother is very sincere and trustworthy. Never once in my life have I ever heard my mother tell a lie, without a concrete reason as to why she said it. The only time she told us a lie was to make us feel good whenever we were sad. The worst thing to my mother was seeing us sad and she would do whatever was in her power to see us happy again.
Another great trait of my mother is that she is naturally friendly and welcoming. People are always attracted to her positive vibe and jovial nature. She does not fake smiles or try to impress people for the wrong reasons. If she likes you, she will go out of her way to make you feel special. Rarely does she get into altercations and if she does, it means that she has really been offended and the person responsible will get a piece of her mind.
She is very slow to anger however. Even if she is angered, she is mature enough to control her tongue. Because, as she always reminds us, words hurt people and once released they can never be swallowed back.
My mother is also very generous. This generosity is not just expended to her children, she extends a helping hand to anyone who needs it. She is the type that will use the right hand to help you, without the left hand knowing. She does not help people publicly for the whole world to see, she does it from the heart, without expecting anything in return.
Coming from a humble background, she understands what it feels like to go hungry and she will do anything to assist everyone, including strangers. Although she will probably be offended that I revealed this, but my mother organizes meals for the less fortunate during Christmas and Thanksgiving holidays.
Furthermore, she is very hardworking. Like I mentioned earlier, my mum didn’t come from a well to do family. She had to work her way up, through sheer will and hard work. Not only that, she had to balance between working and raising a family. Being a housewife was never a thing for her, she felt that it was her responsibility to help dad bring the bacon home. She had to wake up very early, prepare breakfast for us and then drop us to school. In the midst of all these strenuous activities, she still had extra time to be ready for work.
In the evenings she would come pick us up from school, prepare dinner, help us with our assignments and then ensure that we slept well. She did all these chores over and over again, without complaining once. In fact she would get offended if we did something without her. Even in sickness, she still woke up to prepare meals for us.
My mum is a person you can rely on. If she says she will do something, be rest assured that she is going to do it. There are no shortcuts to her when she promises something and she will follow everything to the letter. The only problem is that she expects the same loyalty from people. If you promise her something, make effort to do it or else you will land on her bad side. She loves the truth, no matter how disheartening it may be. She dislikes liars and people with sweet tongues, who will say anything to impress you. I don’t know how she does it, but she can smell a dishonest person from a mile away.
She is also a great counselor. She is a good listener and will lend you her ear for as long as you need it, without judging you. Then, using her profound wisdom she will advise you on the best way to approach a problem. This is the main reason she is my best friend. She is so easy to talk to. The age difference is not an issue for us and we can talk for hours without getting tired. Our long tradition of talking did not stop when I moved out. We still talk on a daily basis on the phone and even though she is old now, she still maintains the same enthusiasm she had when she was young.
Mother is also very fair and just. She has never favored any child over the other. She treats all of us equally. Rewards are measured by ones achievements and her punishments are equally measured by one’s mistakes- in short, you get what you deserve. She never pitied one child over the other and in case of an argument, she would listen keenly to both sides before making sound judgment.
She stressed on the importance of sticking together as a family. She hated when we fought as siblings and she would discipline us thoroughly, even if it broke her heart. I believe she played an important role of keeping us united even in adulthood. But most importantly, she ensures the whole family gets together every holidays.
If there is one thing that I will forever remember my mother for is her good cooking. I know this sounds absurd, but if it were possible then my mother would be in the Mount Rushmore of cooks. That is how great she is. My sisters and I have tried to get some cooking tips from her, but somehow we always run short of her abilities. Just to give you a perspective of how good her cooking was, we used to spend most of our evenings in the kitchen with mum, as she cooked.
We were not like the other kids, who would lock themselves in their rooms or stay in the living room watching television. We had to be where the action was. Furthermore, it was highly unlikely that we would be in the living room with all the aroma in the kitchen.
If I remember right, our memorable moments were in the kitchen. We would sing, dance, make jokes and tell stories. My mother also stressed on the importance of taking meals together as a family. More times than not, we would wait for dad until he came home from work before we could eat. When he was running late however, mother would sit with us as we ate, but not her. She would wait for dad to eat with him. Another special thing about her is that she is very religious and pious.
Prayer is part and parcel of her life and she still prays today. Born and raised a catholic, my mum ensured Sunday devotion was mandatory for all of us. She would pray in the morning, at dinner time and before she slept. It was also mandatory for her to fast and go for lengthy prayers when she wanted to make an important decision in her life. Now that we are not around, she has made it her duty to call us every Sunday morning to wake us up to go to mass.
Moreover, she is very funny. She can easily pass across as a comedian. She used to keep us entertained every evening with funny stories in the kitchen. And it seems like she always has a reference story for any occasion or incident. I think this is the reason she is a great counsellor. People say I inherited her sense of humor and charm. I don’t know if that is true, but I feel really good when people compare me to her.
The fact that our second born came four years after me, meant that me and mum spent a lot of time together. Maybe that explains why I resemble her in many aspects, but the truth of the matter is that I will always run short of her charm no matter how much I try to be like her.
I will forever be grateful to God for giving me such a wonderful mother. She is my role model and I will mold my life to be like hers. In my eyes, she is the embodiment of perfect motherhood and she is the standard that I will forever strive to achieve. I want my kids to look at me, as I look at my mother- with love and admiration. May you live to see all your great grandchildren mother. I love you so much.