My Philosophy in Life
We all have something we believe in or some code of ethics that we adhere to. These codes or principles are what define us. They are our essence and they differ from one person to another. The people who share some of these beliefs become our friends and allies in whatever paths we choose to follow. I have my own philosophies in life, which are summarized by the famous quotes below.
Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something- Plato
One of my philosophies in life is to speak less and listen more. There is a reason why we have two ears and one mouth. Unfortunately, most people do not know when to talk and when to stop talking. People who cannot keep their mouths shut are looked at as arrogant and self-centered and people tend to avoid them.
It is no coincidence that people who seem to get into trouble the most are the ones who tend to talk a lot. Furthermore, continuous verbal outbursts reveals people’s inner most characters, without their knowledge making them very vulnerable to verbal attacks.
You are also likely to burn more bridges talking than when you kept quiet. Contrary to popular belief that people who are naturally quiet are cowards, maintaining silence is actually a sign of maturity and courage. It is much harder to keep quiet than talking, especially during arguments. Talking actually escalates debates into arguments and eventually into fist fights.
Do not underestimate the adage “silence is power”. Opinions of people who talk less are usually given more consideration than opinions from people who talk a lot. It is a fact that during discussions, the person who keeps to himself is always given the chance to speak last and everyone is always attentive to listen to them.
Listening is golden. According to Andrew Carnegie in his best-selling book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” the best way to win friends is by lending your ears to them. People feel appreciated more when you listen to them. They feel they can trust you and before you know it, they will always want to be near you.
You are more likely to achieve in life when people trust and believe in you, than an untrustworthy person who has all the talent and qualifications. Dalai Lama couldn’t have said it better: “When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new.”
“Change your thoughts and you change your world”- Norman Vincent Peale
Thoughts play an important role in molding our behavior. Whatever we believe about ourselves is usually made manifest into our virtual world. When we feed our minds with negativity, we lose the motivation and drive to follow our dreams. When we register to our subconscious minds that we are the best, we start believe so and this somehow boosts our confidence to do the impossible. Most motivation speakers will tell you that ATTITTUDE is what separates winners from losers, leaders from followers and lions from sheep.
One of my favorite quotes is by Alexander the Great. He says, “I am not afraid of an army of lions led by a sheep; I am afraid of an army of sheep led a lion.” I have made it a daily habit to keep repeating these phrases each morning “I’m the best” “Today will be a great day”, plus a series of other positive phrases to boost my energy and keep me happy the whole day. I realized that people treat you better and with respect when you love yourself and are confident in your own skin. Never put yourself down, because people will gladly ensure that you stayed there forever.
“And when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it”- Paulo Coelho
This quotes keeps me going whenever I’m overwhelmed with fear, especially when I’m embarking on something new. When we want something with all our hearts and we focus all our efforts in achieving it, we always get it. It doesn’t matter how humble our beginnings are or how big our dreams are, in the end everything always falls into place. This is nature’s way of showing us that it got our backs.
The most important thing is that we should be patient enough to allow nature to take its course. Rome was not build in a day. In the same way, we cannot achieve our dreams by making the first attempt only. If they were that easy, then dreams would not be worth it.
Victory is much sweeter when you have to endure a lot to get it. Furthermore, calm seas do not make skilled captains. It is through struggle and failure that we learn about ourselves and life. These lessons are crucial to keep us on top when we succeed.
“Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure”- Paulo Coelho
It is a biological fact that when our hearts fail, then we die. The same logic can also be applied in our dreams. The heart represent what we love, what we aspire to be, our essence. When we fail to heed to what our heart wants, then our essence ceases to exist and we are no different from dead people.
Instead of having a life, people are only making a living, because they are too scared to follow their hearts. Most people are actually making decisions using their heads instead of their hearts, which is the cause of their discontentment in life. While the head gives us reasons why things will fail, our hearts show us the satisfaction we will derive once we achieve our dreams.
More times than not, following our hearts is more gruesome and hard, however it is more rewarding. Look at athletes, musicians, actors and entrepreneurs. They are the most remunerated people on earth and not because they are lucky. No! It is because they followed their hearts, put in all the work that was needed and waited patiently for nature to take its course.
They failed many times, they got injured, but they never gave up. People who follow their heads rarely do anything that is out of their comfort zones. They will therefore take whatever is handed to them in form of jobs to stay secure. Their lives are full of regrets and they never reach any level of self-fulfillment.
“Family is the most important thing in the world”- Princess Diana
I learnt this from my grandfather: the best gift that God can ever bestow upon you is family. You can have everything on earth, but without family and people who love you, then this world will be empty and meaningless. The best feeling on earth is knowing that someone loves you, misses you and is concerned when you are not around. Family members will always have your back no matter what. When you are down they will be there to uplift you and when you need a shoulder to cry on, they will be there to lend it to you.
When it is all said and done and you are on your deathbed, it is highly unlikely that you will request to see your bank balance or your investment portfolio or that fancy sports car. You will pray that your family members stand by your side to help you fight the dreaded disease that is taking its toll on you. The worst feeling on earth is dying alone and knowing that nobody is there to share the pain with you. One of my main goals is to have a family that is not just united by blood, but by love, ties and bonds strengthened by the almighty God.
Just as candle cannot burn without fire, men cannot live without a spiritual life- Buddha
Above all, everything is vanity without God. In our quest for all the comforts that life has to offer, we should never forget our creator. It does not make sense to conquer the whole world and then lose your soul. Material things only satisfy our vane souls for a short while then we feel empty as ever. Is it not funny that we yearn for things so much that we believe when we get them our lives would be set? But once when get them, we lose interest with them and we start coveting for other things.
Consumerism or our materialistic behavior is pushing us further away from God. We have become so greedy that we will do anything to acquire wealth. We see billionaires working even harder to acquire more money, even though they have more than enough- but to what end? It is God who gives us all that we seek and all the wealth on this earth belongs to Him. We are so blinded by riches that we do not think about the afterlife. This life is temporary and short and the sooner we realize, this the better.
There is no substitute for hard work- Thomas A. Edison
Hard work is the only tried and tested method of getting success. We should value the work of our hands and only reap where we have sowed. We should not seek shortcuts or cheat our way to the top. We should always do everything to the best of our abilities and patiently wait for God to do the rest.
Our blessings come at different times; some people get theirs early, while others get them later in life. Irrespective of time, God’s timing is always perfect. Our problem is that we lack what is referred to as delayed gratification.
When we want something, we want it now. We cannot patiently wait for it. It is due to this reason that many of us are willing to stoop very low to acquire success. With hard work, the law of compensation will one day work in our favor. We will earn much more for less work to compensate for the days we worked more for less pay.
Philosophies in life give us a sense of purpose on this earth. They are like goals that we strive to attain or principles that guide us through life. They differ from one person to another; they represent who we are. Without them, life would be meaningless.
Although most people believe they do not have them, philosophies in life are naturally embedded in our hearts. They are what guide us each day. Unfortunately, many people have evil philosophies that are causing more harm than good.