Who Am I? Essay
Who am I? This is a question you have probably answered at least once in your life. There are two scenarios to this question. The first scenario is when a stranger asks you, “Who are you?” Without a blink, you will answer, “Who am I? I am so and so. I work at….” In this case, your answer is shallow and brief, because you want to finish your interaction with the stranger pronto.
The second scenario is when a person wants to get intimate with you like in a dating setting. So when s/he asks you “who are you?” what s/he means is, “tell me more about you”. They want to know more than the superficial things that are used to describe you, such as height, age, job, titles, weight etc. They are interested in your passions, phobias, hobbies, interests etc.
So, who am I?
Well, people say I’m naturally quiet. This is partially true. While I may come out as shy and reserved to people who don’t know me, I’m actually quite talkative. The reality of the matter is I rarely make the first approach to talk to strangers. Therefore, I’m usually a lone wolf in social settings, unless my pack decides to accompany me.
But, when a person approaches me, I’m very friendly and when the stranger is patient enough s/he may witness my jovial side. Not to be mistaken as a social reject, but my lack of interaction is not a weakness or a deficiency. It is just that I dislike engaging in small talk. I enjoy intelligent conversations and these are rarely found in social settings.
I hate conforming to social norms. I don’t go around breaking rules for the sake of it. However, I cannot be coerced to do something just because everybody is doing it. I live my life the way I want it to be. I love thinking for myself and making my own decisions. The mob mentality is not for me. This is probably the reason why I have very few friends. I only associate with people who respect me and trust my decisions. Large crowds are usually accompanied by too much negativity, back biting and dishonesty. I actually feel lonelier in crowds than when I’m by myself.
I’m very loyal to the people in my inner circle. Loyalty is probably my biggest virtue. I give it to the fullest and also expect the same from the people I give it to. I show utmost care and love to the people that matter to me. I will do anything in my power to keep them happy. I am also slow to anger and can tolerate whichever is thrown at me for some time.
I tend to overlook the first instances of misbehavior. However, if the person is persistent with it, then I give them a piece of my mind and avoid them entirely. It is actually hard for someone to piss me off to the point that I don’t want to associate with them anymore. However, if such a point were to reach, then I would never forgive him/her even if it was the last thing for me to do on earth.
I’m also very funny to people who have a knack for intelligent humor. My jokes go over the heads of many people, because they do not understand the intellect behind them. To my friends however, they can’t get enough of them. I never make obscene or racial profiling jokes, because I know the repercussions that they may have on people around me.
I have friends from different races and I’m therefore very sensitive on whatever comes out of my mouth. I go out once in a while with my friends to have some good time. However, most of my Friday nights are spent at the comfort of my home watching a movie or reading a book. We used to do a lot of partying in college, but somehow I outgrew the “clubbing thing” and nowadays I find pleasure in staying home.
I love music more than anything in this world. Music is life to me. I listen to virtually every form of music. I love pop, rock and country music and my favorite artist of all time is Celine Dion. Her music is like the soundtrack to my life. I also love Adele, Katie Perry, Beyoncé and Taylor Swift.
I also make music on my own, although not on a commercial level. I write music and play an acoustic guitar. My performances are usually done during family functions. My other love is nature walks. Nothing keeps my spirits burning with joy than an adventurous expedition into the wild. Whether it is traversing plain lands or making our way through forests or kayaking in a river, I’m okay with it as long as it is far away from the city. It only gets better for me, if we have to hitchhike our way back home.
I also love travelling around the world. Each year, I save enough money to go visit a different nation. So far, I have visited Mexico, France and Italy. I still have a long way to go, but I’m determined to visit at least 75% of all nations on earth before the curtains close on me. I love travelling, because I’m introduced to different people and cultures all over the world. It makes me appreciate people more, despite their differences.
I plan to visit some of the best monuments of the ancient world, such as the Great Wall of China, the Leaning Tower of Pisa in Italy and the Great Pyramids of Giza in Egypt. I’m also a fan of cooking. Apart from being a lover of good food myself, there is this feeling of satisfaction I get whenever people enjoy my food. Thanks to my cooking classes, I can cook most of the popular dishes around the world.
My favorite cuisine is Italian food. I just can’t get enough of them. Most Italian dishes are so good to me that it is hard for me to select one as my favorite. However, not a week goes by without me having a plate of spicy spaghetti Bolognese. Mexican food is a no-no for me. I just can’t stomach Mexican food (pun intended).
I do Mexican food once in a while at the request of my Mexican friends, but my body does not respond well. My favorite movie is The Sound of Music, starring Julie Andrews and Christopher Plummer. The love story between the two protagonists blows me away each time I watch it. I have watched it more than a hundred times and I still get the same feeling I got when I watched it for the first time.
My biggest weakness is that I find it hard to trust people. I don’t know if it is a gift or not, but my first instinct about a person is always right. People tend to mask their true intentions from me, but somehow I just see through it all. My aunt who is a psychiatrist once told me that I have high emotional quotient (EQ).
It is easier for me to know what a person is going through from their emotions. For instance, a person does not need to tell me that s/he is going through some tough time. I’ll just feel it when they are around me. So, if their actions do not correspond with the emotions I’m getting from them, I will know they are dishonest.
My biggest fear is not achieving whatever I want to accomplish in life. Apart from travelling the world, I want to start a humanitarian organization that will help children in third world nations. Another phobia of mine is heights or Acrophobia. When I’m on high ground, I just panic looking down. That’s why I will never be caught dead on any amusement rides. My other phobia is snakes. I saw a boy succumb to a snake bite when I was young and that incident has never left my mind.
What I dislike the most in life is dishonest people. With dishonest people, you can never know what they are planning for you. Dealing with hypocrites is very difficult, because they trick you into letting your guard down and you become very vulnerable. They will attack when you are down or when you least expect it.
The worst thing is that we are always surrounded by them. I’d rather come face to face with a killer, than be stabbed in the back by a pretender. I also dislike uncleanliness, both physically and spiritually. People should keep themselves and their immediate surroundings clean. If a person cannot keep his/her body clean, how is he/her going to keep his/her spirit clean? The body is the temple of God and God cannot live in a dirty environment.
Answering the question “who am I” is quite complex, because our lives are very wide that there are areas in our lives we have no knowledge of. Sometimes, we do not see ourselves the way others see us. For instance, we may think we are confident, whereas the people around us feel that we are too proud and arrogant. Furthermore, our behaviors, interests and other things that define us may change after a while.